I know my friend doesn't mean to do it on purpose. I'm sure she isn't even aware she's doing it. But she is now my 'one upper' friend.
Her daughter does pick things up quickly and is moving right along. Sure sometimes I think 'darn why can't Mannix be doing that too'. But I think sometimes its simply because she likes to boast about what her kids doing already. Now there are the parents that happily get all excited amongst themselves when their baby does the firsts. Then theirs the parents that get all excited when their baby does firsts and makes sure you hear about it and makes you see it. Then reply with 'oh, your's will get there eventually. "childs name" is just so smart' when you mention your's isn't doing it yet.
The even more annoying aspect of the one upper friend is when you mention how slowly but surely your fella is coming along and they feel they have all the advice in the world because they have now 'been there done that'.
Tonights annoying one upper topic..feeding. I've been giving Mannix tastes of foods here and there since before my friend even started. Just waiting for the day that he actually eats it instead of just tonguing at it. She's been afraid to try foods until her Ped told her she could start trying. Then of course the first freakin' day she tries her kid inhales half a container. Her suggestion for me 'I just tell her to open'. I have another friend with a child the same age as Mannix (by his original due date) and her kid has started eating as well but she doesn't annoy me. I think it's awesome her son is eating. She doesn't rub it in my face..
I don't like being annoyed (not so much jealous because I think my son has his own pace in mind) by this but it's like tiny bugs crawling under my skin. Woman! I do not care how perfectly your child does things when I mention something my son is or isn't doing. Just be a friend and smile and nod what I say sometimes and stop rubbing it in how your kids doing it already, been doing it for a while now, or is about to try it and you can tell she's already there. :sigh: Sometimes I want to hang with the momma's with normal kids that aren't exceptional beyond their skill level...
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I think it's harder being the Mom of not only a preemie but a boy. At least for us Thane has taken his time doing everything to include eating! He didn't start touching solids till 7 months. I mean the baby food I made! Then he didn't start feeding himself till he was 10 months old.
All babies are different and I have a one upper friend as well. I have basically stopped telling said friend anything that Thane does because not only does it frustrate me it make me feel that he is so delayed. I now no longer allow the friend to tell me what the kid is doing. Because half the time when I see that kid...they aren't doing it...
I wish they would do the same and just nod their head and smile.
That is excellent advice Dina!
I don't get the big deal about the feeding solids. You are only trying to introduce food at this age. And I remember the difficult time I had feeding Damon as a baby and I still do!
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